Yesterday was probably one of the greatest experiences I’ve had in years. Yesterday I got to remarry my best friend.
Those of you who have been following the blog for a long time know about Shawn and what happened to him in September. Our hearts all broke and I was so scared that he would not survive. I should have known, though, that Shawn is stubborn and he would not have left me so abruptly, at least not without having a list of things to say to me first. He pulled through and although our lives have changed in how we live them and the pace at which we live them, we are happy that our lives are still going on, together.
Back in those hospital days, Shawn proposed to me again. And, although we’d like to have a big party in July to celebrate his 40th, my 40th and our 20th anniversary, we decided to have an actual wedding again on our actual anniversary to celebrate our 20 years and our love for one another.
We made that decision and then I promptly kicked him out of the planning.
You see, all throughout our marriage, Shawn has been the romantic one. He is the guy who sends me a message with song lyrics and who sends me flowers to work “just because it’s thursday” and who does the big and the small romantic things. I suck at romance. I’m good at buying sexy underwear to surprise him with, but that’s kind of the limit of where my romantic streak has taken me so far. So I wanted to do this for him, and for us. Besides, he has had more than enough on his plate, I didn’t want to give him any other stress.
Let me tell you, throwing a wedding on an extremely tight budget is not that hard. Especially when all your guests are joining you electronically and you don’t have to feed them.
I made my own dress. We bought the flowers at Costco. I printed out 17 photos of us as a couple from the last 20 years and put them on foam board. I did buy new shoes…but, well, I hardly need a too much of a reason to do that. We bought our rings together from Amazon.
I started to contact family and close friends over the last few days and I gave them the time and date that the event would go live. I set up a live event on Youtube and last night it happened.
We only had one glitch at the beginning when we realized that as well as the live broadcast window, we also had the Youtube window open and we were getting major feedback, but we fixed it quickly and moved on. The wedding itself is short and sweet and meaningful, with all the kids taking part. Even Keisha, who is in Ontario, moderated the live feed comments for us. She is amazing.
After the wedding ended, we had a phone call from my dad and then we went and had supper together. Liam, our son who also works in one of the best kitchens in the area, made us a lovely dinner which we had by candlelight. And then, ironically, we all just changed back into comfy clothes and hung out together.
Another winter storm was blowing in (yes, another) and Shawn and I realized that after the build up of this week and the nervous anticipation we both felt all day yesterday, we were utterly exhausted. So, like true middle-agers, we went to be before 10pm and had a much deserved good night’s sleep.
I am so proud that we did this. I’m incredibly grateful that we made it this far.
If ever there was a wife proud to belong to her husband, proud to be with the man she loves and thankful for the love that surrounds her on a daily basis, then surely me.
It’s another snow day here and it’s just after 10am. The kids are home once again and we are all going to spend today talking, laughing, maybe baking and just being thankful that we have one another.
Thank you all for sharing in this magnificent event and for being a part of our lives.