I took down my post from yesterday last night. Not because I don’t stand behind what I said: I still believe that the CBC had no right to make a professional judgement on a personal issue until all the facts are in, but, that being said, all the facts *are not* in, and I should reserve my commentary until they are. It isn’t fair of me to jump onto a bandwagon I know very little about.
But, it does open up a very interesting dialogue. Public ridicule. At what point are our private lives subject for public scrutiny.
I will use myself as an example because well, I know first hand what’s what when it comes to me.
I write books. I also write a blog. Anything I put in here becomes publicly accessible. Therefore, anytime I post on my blog, I am opening myself up for people to disagree with me, agree with me, comment, not comment, share, etc. By putting my words and my ideas into this public forum, I am opening myself up to the world and welcoming its feedback, whether I like it or not. Then again, I also have the luxury of deleting comments I don’t like, but I rarely do that.
Now, that is my choice. I choose to write a blog, I choose to write books and that part of my life is open for feedback of whatever nature. However, not all that long ago, I was involved in a situation where I DID NOT open a part of my life to public knowledge, and some false information was leaked, and the backlash was wild.
I won’t go into detail, because once again, it is my choice not to share that issue. But I will say, the feeling of having information about yourself being batted around like a toy to a cat is horrific. Especially when that ridicule trickles down and affects your family. My husband, my children, who had nothing to do with the events in question, were treated badly as well. Due to what? Rumours and misinformation. One side telling and amplifying a story in order to make themselves look less culpable. Is that what Jian is doing here in Canada with the CBC? Hitting the story trail first so that when rebuttal comes, it looks less true? It’s possible. Many things are possible. But, is it our business? A very good case could be made that Jian has made it our business by posting his side of the story on his facebook page. He wrote it, he posted it, and therefore, is opening himself to reaction, much the way I do here.
One thing is for sure, this story is far from over.
I’ll tell you one thing I know for sure. After much talking had been had, after many days with a counselor and working on my own issues, I have had an epiphany. Live as if anything and everything you do could show up on the front page of the papers tomorrow. What would my headlines be on a given day? Would I want the people I love and care about to read them? If the answer is no, to any of my choices, well then, it’s time to rethink that choice. Or simply make a different one.
After all, we live in a fully digital age. Information trades faster than we’ve ever seen it and people in the public eye are fodder for the scandal-hungry masses. Especially when it involves sexuality, ESPECIALLY when that sexuality is not “mainstream” or “normal”.
I hope, for everyone’s sake, that this particular scandal dies out so that the people involved can find the right resolution. But I know that it will likely be something that is batted around for quite some time. Hell, I jumped into the fray myself before really thinking about it. What can I say? I bought into the indignation that I felt at CBC before thinking hard about the actual people involved. That was my mistake.
Scandals, man. No one ever wants to be in one, but we eat them like candy. Here’s hoping none of you are ever in the eye of such a storm.