Nothing wakes you up to what is important like near-death experiences. I had one 13 years ago, but I think watching Shawn go through it has been even more of an eye opener. Maybe it’s because I’m almost 40 and at this point in my life I’m done with bullshit. Maybe it’s because I have finally, FINALLY reached a point in my life where I realize it’s okay, even healthy, to stand up for the things that are most important for me. Either way, some tough conversations have been had, and will likely continue to be had.
It is important to say that being treated poorly is not okay. It’s not a bad thing when you ask for time to figure things out. It’s okay to say that what works for you doesn’t work for me and it’s okay to say no thank you to help that you don’t want or need.
It’s also okay to accept help when you need it. And to say thank you and mean it when someone does something nice for you. It’s okay to say yes. And it’s okay to say no.
I’ve had a couple of hard conversations, and I’ve flat out avoided a conversation that I just don’t have the energy or the inclination to have. It’s all okay. Because I live my life now according to what works best both for me and for my family.
Because keeping us all sane, healthy and happy is the most important thing.