All the things that are taking a back seat right now because of a personal family issue:
Writing the lost parts of/rest of Summer Poppies
Writing my other new book
Reading Tiffany Reisz and Jennifer Weiner’s new books
Wearing make up/caring about my hair
Working on my pool
Going to the movies to see Chef
you will notice that in the grand scheme of things, those are all fairly unimportant, ESPECIALLY when it comes to taking care of family. Here’s all the things in contrast that are getting the front seat:
Telling the kids ALL the time that I love them
Taking time everyday to be grateful for what I have
Appreciating my loved ones
Finding *something* to laugh at, at least once a day
Allowing myself to cry when I need to
Saying I love you and really meaning it, even to myself
Working hard at my new job and really being present when I’m there
It’s too easy to allow hard situations to take over everything, and up until recently that is exactly what I used to do. I would wallow in the negative and let it envelope my mind, my heart, all my waking thoughts (and a lot of my sleeping ones…when I slept that is). It wasn’t healthy and it never helped a situation get better. Now I watch for the silver linings, even the really hidden ones, and I appreciate the hell out of them. I make time to let myself feel my feelings, and let my kids feel theirs, but we don’t let them become the end-all and be-all of our lives. We carry on, we talk – man do we talk, and we plan for the future.
Sure, I could let anxiety and depression take over again, but I’ve been down that road and I didn’t like the scenery. I choose to live in the moment, handle what I can, talk out what I can’t and be present with my family. It’s the best thing I can do.
I wish you all a wonderful thursday.
“That which doesn’t kill me, makes me stronger”