I occurred to me recently that I’m bad with taking a compliment. Not only am I bad, but my girls are kind of bad at it too. Come to think of it, in most movies or television shows I watch, the women there also suck at it.
Tell me my hair looks good, and I’ll probably touch it and bemoan a need of re-colouring or the split ends. Compliment my outfit, I’ll most likely tug at it and make a comment about my size. Say I’m pretty and I will likely stick out my tongue and make a blech sound.
My kids are the same. They simply don’t accept a compliment. In fact, it’s become something of a humour point for us to negate them and throw it to a negative. This is not good. And it could easily spiral into whole other areas of self esteem.
So I’ve decided enough. I have stopped this destructive behavior and have been encouraging the kids to do the same. And you know what? It’s starting to work. Not only that, but I’ve noticed that in the last week or two, my daughters, especially my oldest, have made a point of complimenting people in the house throughout the day. It might be a physical compliment, or it might just be a statement of appreciation, sincere appreciation and whenever this happens, the recipient is not only happy and smiling, but is starting to simply say “thank you”.
You can’t rewire the thought patterns that have been ingrained in someone for years overnight, but, you can start to make a difference.